Foundations

These are the questions that sit underneath everything else.

You can optimize your habits, build your career, and get your finances in order - but if you don’t know who you are or what you actually want, you’ll just be efficiently going nowhere.

Most people avoid these questions because they’re uncomfortable. There’s no clear answer to “who am I?” the way there’s a clear answer to “how do I set up a budget?” And discomfort feels like failure.

But sitting with these questions isn’t failing. It’s the work.

The pages here

Identity - The difference between who you are and who you think you should be. Why the “real you” isn’t hiding somewhere waiting to be discovered.

Values - How to figure out what actually matters to you, not what you were taught should matter. Your values aren’t aspirational - they’re descriptive.

Purpose - The myth of finding your one true purpose, and what to do instead. Purpose might be made, not found.

Meaning - The difference between meaning and happiness, and why chasing meaning often works better.

Decisions - How to make choices when you’re paralyzed. Most decision paralysis isn’t about the decision.

Where to start

If you’re feeling lost about who you are, start with Identity.

If you’re feeling lost about what to do, start with Values.

If you’re stuck and can’t seem to move forward, start with Decisions.

There’s no wrong order. These ideas connect to each other.